Topic: Gender
Source: I decided to use my recent trip home and observe how my family
interacts with one another based on their gender. Specifically I am using my interaction
with my 4 year old baby cousin and my observations at a family gathering.
Relation: After reading the Robbins text on the
ideas of gender, I was able to relate my observations in various ways, such as
language, and even the way you dress. The roles of a male and female have been
constructed and placed and oppressed those who may not seem to fit into these
categories.
Description: I haven’t seen my family in over a few
months, so being home was full of great emotions of the things I missed and
some of the things I didn’t so much. My family decided to have a welcome home
gathering at one of my uncle’s house. While there I began seeing and hearing
things such as, “No, that’s for girls” coming from my 4 year old cousin.
Afterwards I just began to watch and see how my cousin interacted with his mother
and his older brothers. On one occasion,
my cousin began to cry because he wanted something that he couldn’t have. So I
decided to go over to him and pick him up and console him, telling him why he couldn’t
have that toy he wanted. Then my aunt came up to me and told me that I needed
to put him down because he needs to learn how to toughen up. “Toughen Up!?” I
repeated to her and she said, “Yeah, he is going to be a man someday and he
need to stop crying all the time, like a baby”. The sad thing about it, is that
my cousin is a baby, and already is learning that it is not okay to cry as a
boy because one day you will be a man.
Commentary/Analysis: When looking into the Robbins text,
you learn how the construction of male and female start and end. I talks about how
U.S. Gender assignments start from birth, where boys are given gender –appropriate
clothing and spoken to in a gender-appropriate way. In the Robins text it
states, “Parents and other caregivers then teach male children that it is manly
to be tough and endure pain. Male children are discouraged from expressing
discomfort and encouraged when they can withstand it”. This is something that
my observation made clear to me when I able to watch this scenario with my cousin
with a different view. I would have, in the past, agreed and would have told my
cousin to not cry and that he is a big boy. My family is continuing to teach
these normalized roles that we have created. So what we may see as being normal
is quite harmful to the ones we force to put in these roles. We recognize a lot
of “isms”, but fail to recognize the ones that we play and enforce.
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